Dating before divorce final christian
One of my readers, “Jeff” is married with two young sons. For Jeff, the marriage is over but he feels unable to leave until his wife is somewhat self-sufficient.In the meantime he tries to stay actively involved in her care although that has its challenges. Because of her mental illness I’m the sole provider financially, but I’m also the primary emotional provider for our sons.
I have to be very careful about what I say to my wife about her illness. I have to get outside help to convince her what’s obvious to me.
I thought maybe he felt that there were things that we needed to work, but just to say that was a jolt. I took a few days to think about it and I came back to him and said, “Let’s get some counseling.
Maybe there’s things that we can change.” And he said, “No, you’re not going to change and it won’t work.”Also at that point we had actually decided that we would stay together for the kids. There’s no love or you have no more love but we can still stay together for the kids because they’re still pretty young.”That was okay for a couple of months and then at Christmas time we went to my parents for Christmas and he was very uncomfortable there, couldn’t wait to get out of there.
“The Christian community is called to help these persons live out their situation in a Christian manner and in fidelity to their marriage bond which remains indissoluble,” (The Catechism of the Catholic Church, 1649). An annulment is not a Catholic divorce, bur rather says that the marriage never met the conditions to be considered sacramental.
If at least one criterion for sacramental marriage was not met then the marriage can be considered invalid and an annulment will be granted.